Holiday Reflections: Navigating Life's Triggers


This morning, I was reminded of a book titled "Triggers" by Marshall Goldsmith, which includes a list of "beliefs" that we often tell ourselves or think.

In our quest for development, we often encounter a paradoxical disdain for two fundamental elements: simplicity and structure. This disdain stems from a deeply ingrained set of beliefs that subtly undermine our growth and potential. Let's unravel these beliefs and understand why embracing simplicity and structure can be transformative.

Contempt for Simplicity: The Misguided Quest for Complexity

Firstly, there's a widespread misconception that complexity equates to significance. Many of us fall into the trap of believing that if something is simple, it's not worthy of our attention or effort. This mindset leads us to overlook straightforward solutions and undervalue clear, concise ideas. The reality is that simplicity often masks a profound depth. The most impactful concepts and strategies are those that can be easily understood and implemented. Embracing simplicity doesn't mean settling for less; it means striving for clarity and efficiency.

Disregard for Instruction and Follow-Up: The Lone Wolf Syndrome

The second aspect of this dysfunctional belief is the disregard for instruction and follow-up. There's a romanticized notion of the 'lone wolf' – the idea that true success and innovation come from working alone, without guidance or support. However, this notion neglects the fact that collaboration, mentorship, and learning from others are cornerstones of growth. Every successful individual stands on the shoulders of giants – mentors, teachers, and peers who have provided insights and feedback. Rejecting instruction and follow-up is not a sign of strength; it's a barrier to learning and evolution.

Overconfidence in Solo Success: Undermining the Need for Help

Lastly, there's an overconfidence in our ability to succeed independently, often without a factual basis. This unfounded faith in solo success overlooks the importance of seeking help and leveraging collective wisdom. No person is an island, and acknowledging the need for assistance is not a weakness but a strength. It requires humility to admit that we don't have all the answers and that others can provide valuable perspectives and expertise.

The Role of Humility in Growth

This brings us to a crucial point: humility. The presumption that we are above those who need structure and guidance is a significant barrier to personal growth. Humility allows us to recognize our limitations and the value of others' contributions. It opens us to new learning and experiences, fostering an environment where growth is not just possible but inevitable.

Embracing Simplicity and Structure for Change

To truly evolve, we need to shed these dysfunctional beliefs and embrace simplicity and structure. Simplicity in our approach allows us to focus on what truly matters, eliminating unnecessary complexities. Structure provides us with a framework to channel our efforts effectively. Together, they create a potent combination for meaningful change.

Conclusion: The Path to Transformation

Our contempt for simplicity and structure, fueled by misplaced pride and overconfidence, hinders our path to personal and professional growth. By embracing these elements and practicing humility, we open ourselves to a world of possibilities, learning, and transformation. Let's celebrate simplicity for its clarity, seek structure for its guidance, and remain humble learners on the journey of life.

By Dean Miles

Keywords: Business Continuity, Mental Health, Coaching

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